Ungrateful People

That quote speaks for itself. I’ve had too many ungrateful people in my life who never appreciate the things I do for them. Shame on me for being quiet all this time. I wish those same people would feel my absence and realize how much of a parasite they were to me or realize that I’m not some demon for people to project their feelings on. It’s no wonder why I tend to come off as more opinionated at best or enraged at worst online compared to my offline life where I tend to be quiet most of the time. I hope those ungrateful people realize how they’ve taken advantage of me all this time and beg for me to come back into their lives. It would feel empowering to tell them no or force them to go on an apology tour where they confess their sins to me or the whole world. Sigh…if only life was like that when it comes to the people who have abused me or at minimum my trust or generosity.

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    • No disagreements about that with ungrateful people. It’s aggravating knowing how much I’ve done for others and rarely do I get thanks or credit. It’s even worse when people just turn their back on me. Maybe I should be more selfish towards those I find to be ungrateful and ask them “What have you done for me lately?”.

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      • Not a bad idea, and yes I see your humor in that. There have been times where I cared more about others more than my own well-being. I do care about people who are family and friends obviously, but I’m more selective in how charitable I can be these days.

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      • Is that so? Sorry to hear about those lectures infecting your ears. Hit by having an opinion? Wow, I never heard that sentiment before. I hope you haven’t felt badgered by words with me when I did get opinionated.

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      • Cool. I know I did get quite vocal when we first interacted on your blog, but that energy was never directed towards you. Debate would’ve been a good word when I had to bring up logic and facts. I definitely know that feeling especially when I have an unpopular opinion or if I bring up very uncomfortable facts to someone even if it isn’t about them. People have legit freaked out and cussed me out at times when that happened.

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      • I get that. Think I got the same way. Won’t deny that aggression aimed at me does tend to be triggering, but I can’t avoid it entirely. So, I need to muscle through when I know it’s not being done with malicious intent.

        Another thing that gets me in trouble is asking questions. For some reason, people expect everyone to understand their position or perspective. If I don’t, I ask a question and it seems to get people annoyed. I think it’s believed that my question is an attempt to get them to screw up or something. It’s weird.

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      • Thank you for clarifying. I can be defensive if I feel that I have to be especially if it’s something I know about or have experience in.

        As in you asking questions gets you in trouble? I’ve never heard of questions being a way to throw people off, but I know some people have been able to pull off some armor piercing questions in heated arguments if they know the right things to say automatically. I’m not one of them, but I think I may have asked those questions involving subjects I know about when people don’t answer or have hissy fits when I (unintentionally) find faults with their position.

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      • Same here. Wonder if my defensiveness comes from being lectured so often.

        I think ‘questions being traps’ is fairly new. Born from the rise in gotcha stuff that gets used to make people look foolish. Because so many high profile figures complain about this, many others mistake genuine questions for traps. This happens more often on the internet. For example, I got swarmed by people when I asked on Facebook what deadnaming was after I’d accidentally done it. Never heard of it before. Asking the question afterwards was perceived as me both trying to fake ignorance and secretly saying the concept was stupid. I couldn’t get anywhere and stayed away from Facebook for a few days. Had to look up the concept myself too.

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      • I see. That could be a possibility and I wonder if how I react to certain things was because of how I was treated like how I was bullied into being quiet or being gaslighted.

        Good point about the concept of “gotcha questions”. That’s something I noticed starting with the 2016 election season when I first heard of that term for example. The internet has been a breeding ground for it and I’m sorry you had to deal with that on Facebook. There were times I wondered if people may have done that to me in hindsight.

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      • Makes senses. Most of our knee jerk reactions are learned. They become instincts, but those were born from experience.

        I remember seeing an uproar about it back then too. Though it felt like a strained definition. Usually just a question that the politician answered poorly. Wasn’t sure much a trap by the interviewer, but the interviewee was an idiot.

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      • Sure thing. Sometimes I wonder what events in my life could’ve shaped why I react in certain ways.

        Yeah. I’ve been noticing it in multiple political situations regardless of the interviewer, politician, or party is being represented. It’s spread to other fields so much with different conversations. There were times where I worried about getting gotcha questions.

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      • I understand worrying about getting tricked. It does happen when you have bad actors out to make you look stupid. Just weird how so many people act like every verbal misstep is caused by someone else. It’s like we can’t make mistakes any more.

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      • Yeah, seriously. I had to deal with phony friends and people trying to make me look bad. Even when I was a kid, I was scared to make mistakes since people would make fun of me, but I never see others being made fun of when they slip up. There was a meme I saw the other day about the story where Albert Einstein did the 9 times table from 1-10 and made a mistake on one of the problems. He was insulted and he responded that he got everything right, but they all focused on that one mistake.

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      • I’m still dealing with people that are out to make others look bad. Think it’s inevitable as long as one has to interact with groups of strangers. For example, work settings. I’ve seen others get mocked for mistakes, but it certainly feels like most get more leeway than I do. Maybe it’s just perspective, but that doesn’t help. It can lead to me accepting the abuse too. Not a good idea. I’ve seen that Einstein meme and it makes a great point.

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      • Sorry that you still have to deal with those people. Have you ever thought about making those same people look bad in retaliation to give them a taste of their own medicine? I do get frustratrated how so many people get a free pass whenever they err. I’m sick of accepting abuse especially the subtle examples. It’s good to know that you knew what meme I was talking about.

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      • I’m low on the totem pole when it comes to those areas. I’d have to become as sneaky and backstabby as them too. I just keep my head down and stay away. If I tried to give them a taste of their own medicine, they’d turn it on me. Seen it before to others who tried.

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      • Okay. I was curious about that. Do you mean you’re low on the totem pole at work or in any of those types of situations? It’s tough for me to be sneaky in that way and I have a hard time being conniving enough to exact vengeance in a way that’s similar to how someone has backstabbed me in the past. I don’t get how people can be so good at it. It’s like those people always know what to do or say in any situation.

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      • Mostly at work. In a few social arenas, which I can’t get into in public. One of those is where it could really backfire to give narcissists a taste of their own medicine. I’ve found that just letting them continue pulling stunts can work in my favor. Eventually, they get cocky and go too far. I might not be able to get them into tons of trouble, but they back off for a while. They have to rebuild their shield of innocence or whatever they’re using to hide their nature.

        As for how some people can be so good . . . sociopathy?

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      • Alright then. I get it. I never thought of it that way by just sitting back on making it backfire with those people. Shame how I was never wise to that by letting themselves look like fools especially where I get a chance to watch them fail.

        Sociopathy? That actually sounds plausible…

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      • You can’t ever feel responsible for what other people do. Your blog has been a source of light and inspiration for a lot of people and you reached out to me at the start, when I had zero idea what to do with my blog. I appreciate everything you’ve done for me.

        I’m sorry that you were gaslighted for so long, it’s a rough place to be. I hope for many years of healing ahead.

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  1. Curtis, don’t waste your precious time on people like that. When compassion comes from the heart, it doesn’t matter what the other person did. There will always be ungrateful people but they’ll never change who I am in any interaction. When I give I don’t expect anything in return.

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